Comments on: Fantasy and Failure

By: Sophie Morel

Sophie Morel — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 12:32:05 +0000

I totally agree with scott. I think that young people get married with their first love, or because of social pressure and i know what it is like to be single!
But I also think that once you are married both side should take care of the other not just financially but really care and listen to the other and see what is wrong and try to be there.
I have my parents' marriage as an example and I know that they bother have to work every day on their relationship. Dad would come home at 8 30PM after work and say to mom, oh no get the other skirt i don't like this one. And my mom goes straight to her room get change just for him, just for a few hours together! I think that is why they have been together for more than 47 years and still say I loveyou to each other!
you guys have a saying taht says "it needs two to tango" and i do think that we have a one side perspective here with this polical fiasco but in the meantime what do we care how he wants to have sex? what is the big deal since the government in the first place does not do anything to avoid the prostitution and the business that goes behind it?
What is more disappointing I think is all the beautiful speeches he has been giving us about prostitution and how to solve the problem and I do hate to think what the women who do this thought and felt about being so let down.

By: Dave Braun

Dave Braun — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 05:03:30 +0000

Only fools would tread in this arena. I have heard as many reasons for infidelity as there are speakers on the subject. The strangest one came from a man I greatly respected who claimed it made his marriage better and he recommended it to the younger men in his company. Dr. Laura echoed Jack's comment that a wife could easily prevent the infidelity of her husband if she took care of him properly. Most wives, including mine, were shocked at this position by a woman.
What made the Spitzer affair so impressive was the Elmer Gantry aspect of it. If he had been an ordinary office holder he could have survived. If he had been liked by many he could have survived. But the combination of Gantry and no political friends did him in.
Since there is no advantage in pursuing this topic any further I will stop here with the comment that no subject since these blogs began showed the difference in the generations as this one did. I thoroughly enjoyed the discussion of both of you and of course Scott.

By: Scott

Scott — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:59:07 +0000

Hi Hillary and Jack – I too was amazed at the news of Eliot Spitzer's infidelities. I think the hypocrisy and irony associated with his own public persona added to the shock value and the level of media attention.

The larger question you raise – are all marriages doomed to infidelity — is particularly interesting to me, as a newly married man (4 months). I can tell you unequivocally that I love my wife completely, and there is no chance that I could even begin to think about straying outside of my marriage for anything. My wife completes me, and she inspires me to be a better person.

Perhaps a large reason for the infidelity that exists is that many people get married for reasons other than truly being in love with their spouse? I think that if you find the person who is right for you, and the love is there on both sides, the chances of infidelity are greatly reduced. Today more than ever, unfortunately, people tend to get married for many reasons, but few of them have to do with loving the other person.