Reconnecting

Now more than ever, we have many ways to reconnect with people from our past. Estranged family and important people that have disappeared from our lives can be brought together.

There is an entire school of thought that says move forward, do not look back. But there are so many unfinished stories that only gain closure at death.

There is a way that is more fulfilling.

Jack is now 84 years old, and has just this week connected with a cousin the same age. When they spoke it wasn’t just the two of them on the phone, but their parents, and the conditions that existed in the 1920’s in Brooklyn. The only experience they really share is the first five years of their lives, yet any two other people could not share these memories. It was a window that was open to the past and they were able to find new meaning in their shared experience. Jack felt a surge of warm emotions when speaking with his cousin. How much more fulfilling this was than to not speak and have closure at a funeral?

Jack and his cousin had been separated by time and circumstance. The ability to reestablish communication brought the past into focus, and made the present more understandable. Furthermore, it inspires them to reestablish their connection with living friends and relatives.

This brings up the potential to reconnect with people with whom you share unpleasant experiences. One may think that there is no value in this pursuit. There are millions of people who refuse to reestablish with their parents because of some trauma from the past.

Yet, with the passage of time a child becomes an adult, with an entirely different set of values and circumstances. The adult has been seasoned by years of dealing with the world, and no longer has the perspective of childhood, with all its fears and insecurities. Thus, reestablishing relationships as an adult is quite different than trying to fix a relationship as a child.

As an adult, one can actively create the type of relationship that they want, rather than simply reacting to a given situation, over which they likely had little or no control. One can choose to stop seeing the world through the emotions of a wounded child and realize that whatever hurt you before can’t hurt you now. 32-year-old Hillary does not get misused.

With the passage of time it is possible to revisit a difficult experience and to make things right. As adults, a mother and daughter (for example) can connect in a way that a teenager could never conceive. The perspective gained by experience can open avenues that simply did not, and could not exist previously.

The benefits of a positive relationship with one’s parents, after years of strife, are almost immeasurable. The new experiences begin to overpower old prejudices. Joyful moments heal old wounds. And the new time spent together can allow for new understanding, which benefits not only the primary relationship, but all relationships thereafter. You will be able to see, like ripples in a pond, the reach of this newfound connection, and how many people it can positively affect.

Also, there is no reason why we cannot reconnect to old friends and associates without a blood relationship. We do believe that all business is personal, and for many reasons a reconnection would be very desirable. Jack’s mission has shifted into being more of a teacher than a for-profit entrepreneur, which has brought out many former associates who wish to reconnect. There is enormous satisfaction for Jack in having a number of believers to carry the message, defining the real value of business activities in a rapidly changing market. This demonstrates that reconnection can be financially beneficial as well as personally satisfying.

Reconnecting is a cause that is bigger than we are. The cumulative result of which will produce a better world for all of us.

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