http://communicationisinspiration.com/2008/11/18/the-cost-of-conformity/ Generation 2 Generation: Let's Talk Fri, 02 Jul 2010 19:09:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=Communication is Inspiration hourly 1 http://communicationisinspiration.com/2008/11/18/the-cost-of-conformity/comment-page-1/#comment-1114 David Braun Sun, 22 Jun 2008 05:17:35 +0000 http://communicationisinspiration.com/2008/02/12/the-cost-of-conformity/#comment-1114 I read your blogs on communication, inspiration, compromise, and cultism and it seems, except for compromise which is more of a methodology issue they have a common theme which is to recognize your beliefs and express them verbally or by your actions regardless of the social, political or economic pressures put on you. Pent up resentments can cause physical and psychic damage over a period of time. They are also excuses for failures and frustrations in life. (I was fired because my supervisor did not like me, or other people in the office resented me or refused to help me etc. We have all heard these reasons for failure) It is no wonder that some fall prey to the cultists who promise a cure for those who feel life is to difficult to navigate alone, without a leader. (substitute President for leader and religion for cure). As to compromise I totally agree. It is often a choice between getting something done and moving ahead or a stalemate. I disagree on one point. I rarely found that my adversary offered more than I wanted had I made the first proposal. It does depend on the situation and your knowledge of the marketplace and the needs of your adversary. I do agree that listening is the best method for finding a good solution (or compromise) of a problem. It is the basis for the success of mediation where both sides trust the mediator with their fears and concerns, something our adversary judicial system fails to do. I read your blogs on communication, inspiration, compromise, and cultism and it seems, except for compromise which is more of a methodology issue they have a common theme which is to recognize your beliefs and express them verbally or by your actions regardless of the social, political or economic pressures put on you. Pent up resentments can cause physical and psychic damage over a period of time. They are also excuses for failures and frustrations in life. (I was fired because my supervisor did not like me, or other people in the office resented me or refused to help me etc. We have all heard these reasons for failure) It is no wonder that some fall prey to the cultists who promise a cure for those who feel life is to difficult to navigate alone, without a leader. (substitute President for leader and religion for cure). As to compromise I totally agree. It is often a choice between getting something done and moving ahead or a stalemate. I disagree on one point. I rarely found that my adversary offered more than I wanted had I made the first proposal. It does depend on the situation and your knowledge of the marketplace and the needs of your adversary. I do agree that listening is the best method for finding a good solution (or compromise) of a problem. It is the basis for the success of mediation where both sides trust the mediator with their fears and concerns, something our adversary judicial system fails to do.

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